That is a personal decision that deserves serious thought. While we can’t tell you what to do, we would suggest that you move your surviving parent if you have any concerns at all about his or her safety. You certainly don’t want to risk the life of your surviving parent or have your family suffer from two preventable nursing home deaths.
Things to Consider as You Make This Decision
As you decide where your surviving parent should live it is important to consider:
- Whether the threat has been removed.
- If there is another nursing home downtown, in Graymoor, or elsewhere in the Louisville area that is safer.
- Where your parent will be comfortable.
- Where you and your relatives can visit your parent regularly or check in with staff and get accurate information about your parent.
- Whether it will be emotionally difficult for your parent and your family if your parent stays in a place where your other parent was abused or neglected.
You also need to consider your gut feeling and to make the decision as a family.
Remembering the Parent Who Died
As you concentrate on the well-being of your surviving parent, it is also important to remember the parent who died. If your parent was dehydrated, malnourished, or otherwise abused or neglected then he may not have had to die. Your family may have the ability to prevent this kind of abuse or neglect from happening again by holding the person(s) who committed the abuse or neglect accountable. This may also help you honor your parent’s memory.
For more information, please read our free nursing home abuse and neglect articles and call us directly to have your questions answered.